I recently came across an article that talks about the “Downsides of being very emotionally intelligent.” Although I respect and commend the author for his previous work, on this occasion, I strongly disagree.
But first, let’s define what is meant by “Emotional Intelligence.” According to the most reputable dictionaries, ‘Emotional Intelligence’ is “the ability to be aware of, manage, and express one’s emotions, as well as the emotions around us.”
Based on this definition, and common sense, stating that “being very emotionally intelligent can have downsides,” is analogous to stating that being “too healthy” can have negative effects.
Human behavior, despite our great advances in developing our reasoning, is still ruled by our emotions, more specifically, by our limbic system, composed of the hypothalamus, the amygdala, the thalamus, and the hippocampus.
Under calm situations — which is almost never within our increasingly turbulent and uncertain world — it is possible to exercise our ability to reason to a high degree. However, as soon as we encounter stressful situations (pleasant or unpleasant), our emotions begin to take over our reasoning. This is especially true under extremely positive situations (e.g., winning the lottery) and/or extremely negative situations (e.g., life-threatening), and in accordance with the individual genetics and environmental conditions.
Most people die under stressful situations, e.g., drowning, not because they don’t know how to swim but because they panic.
It’s very common to see highly intelligent and successful businessmen like Elon Musk succumb to their emotions via Twitter.
It’s simply anti-natural for any human not to succumb to emotions within our time and space dimension.
I am not aware of any human (as I have written elsewhere) who has been able to fully manage his emotions, especially the most powerful emotion any human can feel, namely, the fear of death, to the point of perspiring blood, other than the Son of the Carpenter, and his disciples once they received The Holy Spirit.
Hold on a second, what does The Holy Spirit have to do with our emotions?
Here’s where our “Free Will” comes into play.
You see, it is physically impossible to exercise ‘Free Will’ when ruled by emotions.
The only possibility to transcend our emotions, i.e., to transcend time/space, is by subjecting our ego and developing altruism and the only possibility to subject our ego is by exercising our higher state of being i.e., our Divinity.
Only by transcending matter (i.e., time/space) we can escape from our limbic system, our emotions, and our ego, and truly exercise our free will.
Therefore, Emotional Intelligence and Free Will are intimately related and there can never be any downsides of being “too” emotionally intelligent or from exercising “too much” our Free Will!
Here’s To The Health of Your Emotional Intelligence!
JC Wandemberg Ph.D.
President & Founder
About the author: Dr. Wandemberg is an international consultant, professor, and analyst of economic, environmental, social, managerial, marketing, and political issues. For the past 30 years Dr. Wandemberg has collaborated with corporations, communities, and organizations to integrate sustainability through self-transformation processes and Open Systems Design Principles, thus, catalyzing a Culture of Trust, Transparency, and Integrity.